Kujdesi p\u00ebr t\u00eb moshuarit sjell shum\u00eb g\u00ebzim. Por sjell edhe situata sfiduese. T\u00eb moshuarit ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb shfaqin sjellje t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira. Ata mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb zem\u00ebruar, kok\u00ebfort\u00eb, agresiv\u00eb ose thell\u00ebsisht t\u00eb trishtuar. Duhet ta kuptoni se k\u00ebto veprime pothuajse kurr\u00eb nuk b\u00ebhen me q\u00ebllim. K\u00ebto ndryshime shkaktohen m\u00eb shpesh nga problemet sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsore. Demenca, s\u00ebmundja e Alzheimerit, dhimbja fizike ose efektet an\u00ebsore t\u00eb ila\u00e7eve e ndryshojn\u00eb ndjesh\u00ebm sjelljen e nj\u00eb personi. Humbja e kujtes\u00ebs shkakton frik\u00eb t\u00eb madhe tek nj\u00eb person i moshuar. Kur nj\u00eb i moshuar humbet pavar\u00ebsin\u00eb e tij, ai ndjen frustrim t\u00eb madh. Ai nuk mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb m\u00eb gj\u00ebra q\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb i menaxhonte me leht\u00ebsi t\u00eb plot\u00eb. T\u00eb kuptuarit e k\u00ebtij shkaku do t’ju ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigjeni me durim. Do t\u00eb shihni nj\u00eb person q\u00eb ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr ndihm\u00ebn tuaj, jo nj\u00eb armik. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Empatia \u00ebsht\u00eb mjeti juaj m\u00eb i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm n\u00eb kujdesin ndaj t\u00eb moshuarve. Do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqeni ta shihni bot\u00ebn p\u00ebrmes syve t\u00eb t\u00eb moshuarve. Kur nj\u00eb i moshuar refuzon ndihm\u00ebn tuaj, mos u grindni me t\u00eb. Grindja nuk e zgjidh kurr\u00eb problemin. Vet\u00ebm sa e p\u00ebrkeq\u00ebson situat\u00ebn. N\u00eb vend t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, d\u00ebgjojini me kujdes shqet\u00ebsimet e tyre. Pranojini menj\u00ebher\u00eb emocionet e tyre. Mund t\u00eb thoni fraza t\u00eb thjeshta si: “E kuptoj q\u00eb je i zem\u00ebruar tani” ose “Dua t\u00eb t\u00eb ndihmoj t\u00eb ndihesh i sigurt”. Ky pohim mund ta qet\u00ebsoj\u00eb shpejt nj\u00eb situat\u00eb t\u00eb tensionuar. Toni i z\u00ebrit tuaj \u00ebsht\u00eb po aq i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm sa vet\u00eb fjal\u00ebt. Flisni gjithmon\u00eb ngadal\u00eb, but\u00ebsisht dhe qart\u00eb. Nj\u00eb z\u00eb i qet\u00eb dhe i but\u00eb tregon se jeni mb\u00ebshtet\u00ebs. Ai nd\u00ebrton besim t\u00eb thell\u00eb dhe zvog\u00eblon nivelet e stresit p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb n\u00eb dhom\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n
Ka disa strategji t\u00eb thjeshta q\u00eb mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorni p\u00ebr t\u00eb menaxhuar me sukses koh\u00ebrat e v\u00ebshtira. S\u00eb pari, krijoni nj\u00eb rutin\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebndrueshme ditore. T\u00eb moshuarit ndihen t\u00eb sigurt kur e din\u00eb sakt\u00ebsisht se \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb m\u00eb pas. Ndryshimet e papritura n\u00eb orar shpesh shkaktojn\u00eb ankth dhe pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi. S\u00eb dyti, jepini t\u00eb moshuarit nj\u00eb zgjedhje. N\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb jepni urdhra, pyeteni: “A doni \u00e7aj apo l\u00ebng p\u00ebr m\u00ebngjes?” T’i jepni t\u00eb moshuarit nj\u00eb zgjedhje i jep t\u00eb moshuarit nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb kontrolli mbi jet\u00ebn e tyre. S\u00eb treti, p\u00ebrdorni metod\u00ebn e ridrejtimit t\u00eb v\u00ebmendjes. N\u00ebse i moshuari \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i p\u00ebrqendruar n\u00eb nj\u00eb mendim negativ, ndryshoni but\u00ebsisht tem\u00ebn. Tregojuni atyre nj\u00eb foto t\u00eb vjet\u00ebr, luani muzik\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb preferuar ose ftojeni p\u00ebr nj\u00eb sh\u00ebtitje t\u00eb shkurt\u00ebr n\u00eb kopsht. Kjo do ta zhvendos\u00eb leht\u00ebsisht v\u00ebmendjen e tyre n\u00eb di\u00e7ka t\u00eb k\u00ebndshme.<\/p>\n\n
Kujdesi k\u00ebrkon shum\u00eb energji mendore dhe fizike. Nuk mund t\u00eb ofrosh kujdesin m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00ebse nuk ke mjaftuesh\u00ebm forc\u00eb nga vetja. \u00cbsht\u00eb krejt\u00ebsisht normale t\u00eb ndihesh i lodhur, i stresuar ose i frustruar ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb. Mos i fshih k\u00ebto ndjenja nga vetja. B\u00ebj pushime t\u00eb rregullta gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb dit\u00ebs sa her\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb e mundur. Ha ushqime t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme, pi shum\u00eb uj\u00eb dhe fli mjaftuesh\u00ebm. Kur ndihesh plot\u00ebsisht i rraskapitur, fol me dik\u00eb. Nj\u00eb kujdestar profesionist e di kur t\u00eb ngadal\u00ebsoj\u00eb dhe t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb ndihm\u00eb. Mbrojtja e sh\u00ebndetit t\u00ebnd nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb akt egoist. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb hap i nevojsh\u00ebm n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mund t\u00eb vazhdosh t\u00eb ndihmosh t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt me nj\u00eb zem\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe t\u00eb durueshme. <\/p>\n\n